Here’s my notes from this this Ted Talk.
“I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate” –Ernest Henley
Without the skill of self-confidence we are useless.
Self-confidence: the ability or belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, the difficulty or adversity.
Self-confidence can be trained by:
1. Repetition, repetition, repetition. Practice!
The problem with repetition is that we bail out after a few tries.
Don’t accept failure; repetition and persistence are key.
2. Self-talk- we all have this negative self-talk in our heads. Guess what? We have enough people saying “we can’t do it, we are not good enough.” Thoughts influence actions. The more we focus on the negative, we will start believing it. We need our own self affirmations. Get away from people who tear you down. We need our own self affirmations where we tell ourselves “I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.”
-Write a letter to yourself of the things you are proud of and read it to yourself daily to reaffirm yourself.
STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF TALK.
Build confidence in others by-Praising the positive behaviors we want to reinforce.
Self-confident people interpret negative feedback the way they want to.
Lastly, NO-ONE WILL BELIEVE IN YOU UNLESS YOU DO.