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Clear sign he is not into you..

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move on*Lack of communication: Ladies, this is huge. If a guy doesn’t keep in touch with you as often like he used to most likely he is not into you. If a guy likes you, he will do whatever it takes to talk to you. Guys are complex that’s why we have to pay more attention to their actions than their words. Their actions don’t lie.

Analyze his actions not his words especially when his words don’t match his actions. You will get the answer you need by analyzing his actions. If he is really into you his words and his actions will match.  If he is not communicating as much, back off too and see what happens. Don’t make the mistake of initiating conversations. Don’t beat yourself up, learn from it and move on.

Will the man of your dreams be attracted to you?

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A lot of women and men have this long list of what they want in their future spouse, but they don’t have the same qualities as the person they want.

If you are looking for these qualities:
1.Love God
2. Muscular
3. Educated
4. Confident
5. Goal-oriented
6. Family-orientedlove family
7. Love kids
8. Dress well
9. Loyal
10. Strong
11. Great relationship with his family

Just to name a few..

Make sure you also:
1. Love God
2. Fit
3. Educated
4. Confident
5. Goal-oriented
6. Family-oriented
7. Love kids
8. Dress well
9.Loyal
10. Strong
11. Great relationship with your family.

The person you want also wants someone with the same qualities. If you want a guy who loves the lord, trust me most likely he wants a woman who loves the lord too. Be the person you want.

Good Guys are not at the Club..

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YES, I seriously believe good guys don’t club. Good guys look for commitments not flings. I rarely hear guys say, I want to find my wife at the club. Ladies, if you are going to the club to find your husband. NEW FLASH: He is not there. No reasonably guy will go to the club to find a meaningful long lasting relationship. Most guys, who go to clubs, go for one reason (you already know). Ladies, don’t expect any guy you meet at the club to respect you because they also know you came for the same reasons they came. Guys are not stupid, they will go to club and party it up but when it is time for them to settle down. They will go somewhere else and find their wife. Boys are at the clubs. Real men are in responsible places.

Miserable people like seeing other people miserable..

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????????????????????????????????????????Yesterday, I chose to get angry over something someone did. I did not say he or she made me angry, I said I chose to get angry. I said it that way because I had a choice not to get angry but I chose to get angry.

We can’t control what people do to us but we can control how we respond to people. We want to respond emotionally when people do things we don’t like, but anybody who can make you angry has power over you.

Don’t give people the power to control your emotions. Our emotions should be stable regardless of what people do to us. Anyone who can control your emotions can control you.
I saw pleasure on this girl’s face yesterday and I told myself, I can’t let this happen again. Miserable people want to make other people miserable. It is important that we don’t allow people’s actions control our emotions.

If they can control your emotions, they can control you. If you don’t want people to control you don’t let their actions control your emotions.

Tips to help you successfully deal with Academic Difficulty Part 2

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1. Stay positive-This is so important.. Speak positively about the situation. Think positively about the situation and stay positive. You have to make a conscious effort to do this because it is not easy. Life is all about perspective, so give a positive spin to the situation.

2.  Counseling-I remember one of my classmates suggesting this to me. I went for two sessions and that was it. I have nothing against counseling; try it if it works for you use it. Personally, I didn’t stick to it because I made God my counselor. What does that mean? I would literally schedule time to spend time with God to get through this.

3. Speak life to the situation- I changed my vocabulary about the situation. Every time, I remember that I just failed. I would open my mouth and say “I am a success story.” Yes, you just failed. It doesn’t make any sense to use your words to beat yourself up. Use your words to speak life. You can say, “The lord will perfect that which concerns me” but make sure you speak life.

4. Exercise-Do whatever you do to help you with stress. If you like going out with friends to relax, do it. It has to be something you enjoy. For me, exercise helps me a lot with stress. I suggest, it should be something that will help you relieve stress.

5. Read– One of the books, I read which really helped me out was “the traveler’s Gift” by Andy Andrews. This book talks about a guy who is going through failure all around and he goes around meeting prominent people in history who give him some amazing advice about life. You don’t have to read this book but read a self-improvement book.

6. Take responsibility for what happened. Don’t say this teacher didn’t like me. You can’t move forward unto you take responsibility for what happened to you. Complete this sentence: I am here because I didn’t…  Complete this sentence honestly without beating yourself up.

7. You have to move forward. Moving forward could mean trying again and again. Whatever moving forward means to you do. For me, it meant trying again which I did but it didn’t work; however, I persevered. You might have to change your major etc but do not put your education on pause. Go forward.

8. This is not the time to talk to negative people. When you are at your lowest this is when your friends need to be your cheerleader. Cut out talking to negative people. If the negative person is your family member decrease the amount of time you talk to them. When you are very vulnerable at this time, you can’t afford to talk to people who will pull you down.

9. Look over your school journey what will you do differently next time? Implement the necessary changes you need now.

10. Never believe you are a failure.  Believe that the best is yet to come. People who are afraid to try already accepted failure. You didn’t, you gave it your all and that’s what will put you on the road to success. Successful people are not discouraged by failure, they are encouraged by it.

11. Create a journal and write down your thoughts. If you don’t like writing; at least, do videos on your laptop and store them on your computer. You don’t have to upload them on youtube (except you want do).

12. Write down new goals and go after them.

13. See yourself already where you want to be. This academic difficulty situation caused me to post pone my graduation. It was very important for me to see myself walking across that stage before it happened.

Day dream about where you want to be and see yourself there.  I had pictures of people with graduation gowns all over my dorm room. Your mind is the canvas you use to paint your future. Paint wisely! Remember as a man thinks in his heart so is he (Proverbs 23:7)

14. Watch this video:

No matter how many times you get knocked down, you have to get back up. Please, get back up and move forward!

Shocking Whodunnit Finale..

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Oh my goodness, I am not one to watch tv but this show had me hooked from the very first start.
I thought the whole time that the killer was a guy.
Shockingly, Cris is the killer.
I mean, she played the game so well as the killer.
How was she able to plot all those brilliant murder schemes?
She probably had help along the way.
I am so happy for Kam though, I thought he was the killer the whole time.
Wow, I am still shocked.
Ok. Back to my books!