1. Money grows on trees– I know a lot of Nigerians don’t think like this but for those who believe this myth, please stop believing it. America has a lot of opportunities, but Nigerians have to come here and work hard for their money. Stop calling a student in the America to send money to you. If they are not working; they don’t have the money. Please try to believe that even if they are working that as a student, they wouldn’t have that much time to commit to work and making money.
2. People who travel aboard are better than you– There are insecure people who come back from America to Nigeria to act high and mighty. Truth is they are nothing and I don’t care how much money they have. Treat them the same. They will try to pretend that they have forgotten their native language, it’s not true. Now, if they have been in America for 15years or more, it is possible to forget the language if they didn’t speak with other natives but they should still be able to remember.
3. There is no poor person or places here– Everywhere you go you will see poor people and places. America is not exempted.
4. Nigerian girls and Nigerian guys are the same from back at home: I mean, they have the same mentality but with a little twist. Nigerian guys here are away from their mothers and family, so they have to learn to cook. You will be surprised how Nigerian guys can cook. The whole thing about woman cooking is slowing going out the window (women still need to know to cook). Nigerian girls here are very independent and not as dependent as they would have been on men in Nigeria.
5. We don’t eat our native food: There are some Nigerians who come back and act like they can’t eat Nigerian food anymore. Don’t mind them. We still eat Nigerian food here. It is a little expensive because we are limited as to where we can get the food stuff but we still eat it. Some places in the states might be different.
In preparation to launch International Eagles of Nigeria in March 2014.
I will posting some important information on here for starters.
An online American school will be starting soon to educate students in African countries.
You only need a secondary education and at least 18 years of age.
At the end of the program, you get an Associate degree.
If you are an African student, please take advantage of this opportunity and educate yourself.
If you need help or have a question: [email protected] (I will do my best to help you get answers).
DEADLINE TO APPLY: February 27, 2014
Click on the websites below for more information: http://www.scholars4dev.com/9799/microsoft4afrika-scholarship-at-uopeople/
http://www.uopeople.org/
Nigerians,
I laugh as I watch this video of our Nigerian Parents but deep down I am scared that some of us will use this parenting style to raise our kids.
A lot of Nigerians children including myself were raised with an authoritarian parenting style.
I learned in college that there are four types of parenting styles:
1. Authoritative: Here the parent set rules and boundaries. The parent is responsive and nurturing and the parent is less likely to control their kids by induction of shame, guilt or withdrawal of love (Source)
2. Authoritarian: Parents are very strict with their kids (Most Nigerians can relate)
3. Permissive: Parents act as a friend towards their kids.
4. Uninvolved: Parents don’t care about the child.
I grew up with parents who used authoritarian parenting style and I have seen its damaging effects. It scares me that more Nigerians couples and future parents will use this parenting style without questioning it.
I am pleading with you present/future Nigerian parents to use a different parenting style because an authoritarian parenting style doesn’t help kids develop emotionally. Based on my observation of myself and siblings, I can say this parenting style has different effects on children. For me, I noticed that I became emotionally distant from the people I love. Agreed, this parenting style produces obedient children but at the cost of their emotional development.
This parenting style produces negative results because God created parents to be nurtures not dictators. You can discipline your kids without withdrawing love from them. A lot of Nigerians think that discipline is a form of love and I completely agree, but discipline is not the only form of love.
Providing for your kids financially caters to their physical needs not their emotional needs. Nigerians parents, your kids need to know and feel loved by you. I knew my parents loved me by their actions but they didn’t do much to make me feel loved. This is why I hate this parenting style because it focuses more on discipline and neglects the emotional needs of children.
You need to balance the discipline with love. You need to make sure that your children feel loved. Cater to their emotional needs because it is important. You need to hug, kiss your child, talk and play with your children regularly this will help them with their emotional needs. Once in a while sit down and have a communication with them without scolding.
Again, your children knowing you love them is not enough; you need to physically hug, kiss, talk and play with your children to help them develop emotionally. Be affectionate towards your children. Children are a gift from God, enjoy the journey.
Rule of thumb: As the discipline goes up, the love needs to go up as well.
In summary: Discipline your kids and still be affectionate because it is important for their emotional development.
If you are an African on WordPress or you have a blog.
I challenge you to educate your readers/followers about your country.
The world have such a vague view of our continent, Africa.
It is our responsibility as Africans to educate the world about us.
We are the best educators because we live or lived in Africa.
The Challenge:
1. The title for every blog post should be “Africa 101: (Your Country) without the brackets.
2. Educate about your country’s history.
3. Share your experiences in your country.
4. Address the stereotypes people have about your country.
5. Share what you wish people knew about your country.
6. Tag this post in first blog entry
7. Encourage other Africans to join the challenge.
Do as much entries as you wish. Please make sure every information is accurate and unbiased.
I am Nigerian.
I will be honest and tell you what I know and saw.
During the series, we will learn more about other African countries together.
Nigeria is in West Africa.
I lived in Nigeria for 12 years, I know what I am talking about..
Just like the states you have the city and rural areas.
In Rural areas.. people of low socioeconomic class lived in huts or mud houses.
In the city, people lived in brisk houses.
In some developing places, you would see Brisk houses and mud houses spread around.
Example of a hut:
Example of a Brisk house:
People in Nigeria live in huts or brisk houses.
Depends mostly on their socioeconomic status.
We don’t live in trees..
