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Peace that surpasses all Understanding..
Yesterday, work was hectic. My managers were on the edge. We were already short staffed for the day and one of my managers had to send one employee home for a reason, I don’t know. Everything around me yesterday was crazy but something happened yesterday as well. What? In all that craziness, I was completely at peace. There’s a kind of peace that only God can give. I was not disturbed about anything. It seems the craziness wasn’t even happening. I was so much at peace to the point that I was asking myself.. Why are you so relaxed in this chaos? I was at peace because God gave me peace. Thank you Lord for your peace.
Killing Lust Series: love
We focus on God’s love for us that we neglect to show God we love him. The same way we show the people we love our love, we need to show God we love him too. Real relationships are not one-sided. The best way to show God we love him is by doing what he tells to do. Having this mindset of doing things out of our love for God will not only help us with our walk with God but it will help us in life.
Our love for God should motivate us to kill lust in your lives. Lust is a relationship killer. A relationship with God is vital to killing lust in our lives. God shows his love to us every day. What are we doing to show God we love him? Love is an action word. We have to show God we love him by obeying his word. Sin hurts God. We can’t say we love God and hurt him with sin. Feeding lust will destroy our relationship with God. We can’t serve two masters.
We should be committed to killing lust in our lives not out of obligation but of out of love for God.
Happy Birthday Nigeria 2013
We are 53..
We are not kids anymore.
It’s time to empower Nigeria by empowering Nigerians.
Our government has failed us.
We have to take charge of our lives and destiny. 
A better Nigeria starts with you and me..
We can’t give up.
Our government use their power to exploit the poor, our youth and future.
They don’t know they hurt themselves by hurting us.
It’s time we stop making excuses for our sorry lives.
Our government promises are empty with no intention of executing anything.
I plead with you Nigerians aboard..
Remember 9ja..
It’s time to give back.
We can all do something to give back.
4 Independent NIGERIAN WOMEN
This one is for my Nigerian sisters.
Don’t allow anyone force you into marriage especially when you know this person doesn’t love you and you don’t love the person.
Our culture defines women by their marital status.
That’s why a lot of women in our society are miserable in their marriages.
I rather be single and happy than married and miserable.
Culture is important but our happiness is also important.
As we all know marriage is a long term commitment.
Since marriage is a long term journey, you have to take your time with your decision.
Forget about your age and the pressure from your family.
Don’t let people plan your life and future for you.
Fight for the life you want by learning to make your own decisions.
*Please don’t make a lifelong decision hastily*
1. Don’t succumb to pressure
2. Take your time and make your own decision
3. Be honest with yourself. Does this man really love you like he claims? Does he show you he loves you? Do you love him? If he was disabled would you still love him?
4. Pray about your decision.
5. Educate yourself about love. Read books. Talk to people you know will always tell you the truth..
6. See both sides.
7. Make your decision.
We are not properties. We can make our OWN decisions without assistance!
African Parents eh..
Recently my dad asked me if I have someone to marry?
I couldn’t believe my ears..
In my head, I couldn’t believe my dad asked me that question.
Before I left for school, I was given the advice focus on your books and no boys.
Having a boyfriend in my family as a girl is a taboo.
African Parents surprise me sometimes..
How am I supposed to have someone to marry when you clearly said I shouldn’t have any boys in my life while in school?
Was I wrong for taking your advice?
Did I commit any crime by obeying you as my parents?
I went to school focused on my books and I ignored a lot of guys out of respect for you and now, miraculously I need to be married because I am done with school.
Sometimes our African Parents are not fair..
They tell you to do something and when you do as you are told; they want to turn around to stab you in the back like you shouldn’t have taken their advice in the first place.
I am prepared to suffer any consequence of being obedient.
I refuse to become that lady who now wears miniskirts, dresses and heavy makeup in efforts to find her husband to appease her family.
Since when did my relationship with a man become more important than my relationship with God?
The whole time I was in school, you spoke to me about “God, God, God” after I graduated is about “husband, husband, husband.”
First of all it is not a girl’s place to find her husband.
If love doesn’t happen naturally then I guess, I will be single for a while.
Nobody is pressuring me to do anything.
I will not force myself on any guy to stop my family from bugging me about this husband thing.
I hate when African Parents pressure their daughters about marriage.
It is not a girl’s place to find her husband.
No African guy wants a desperate girl in the first place.
Stop pressuring your daughters because they are of age or done with school to get married.
Let love happen naturally.
If love doesn’t happen naturally for me, I will be single, content and full of life.
Guys chase girls to marry not the other way around.
Nobody should be pressuring any girl to find her husband.
Her husband should find her.
Till I meet my husband, I will be content in CHRIST.
Sorry dad, I am not going to force myself on any guy or marriage to appease you.
Why do you need another blog?
Someone asked me..
I need another blog because I have the life of my dreams in another country and it hurts me that a lot of my people are not living their dreams in their own country. I live in the states, I have constant light and water; however, my people have to use generators to see light and they have to carry water on their heads to bring to their houses before they have water in the house. Yes, I know what you are thinking, I am only a woman I can’t accomplish anything to help my people. I have no time to listen to critics when my people are suffering. The poor people in the States have better lives than people in my country.
Some say.. you are not smart enough.. I am not this or that. I DON’T CARE. MY PEOPLE ARE SUFFERING and I will scream to anyone who can hear me. My scream is for you educated Nigerians aboard to remember your people, and do something. Do Something! We have to do something. Our government has failed our people; we have to build each other up to build a better Nigeria. Today, I ate three times, we have college graduates on the streets selling pure water to put at least one meal on their table. We have to remember our people; we can’t enjoy the good of someone’s country and neglects ours. College graduates are gate mans, house boys and girls for rich people in Nigeria.
No matter where you go and how bad you want to forget your identity, it doesn’t change the fact that you are still a
Nigerian. I speak with an American accent all day; it doesn’t change the fact that I am still a Nigerian. Neglect your people; neglect yourself because we are one. If you are doing well aboard please, remember your people and give back.
We think we have to help the whole country to help Nigeria. Not True! If you can help one Nigerian and that Nigerian helps another Nigerian… We will change Nigeria. There’s one thing I love most about Americans, they love community service. Americans work hard and they give back as well. If our country also had that sense of community service do you think our country would be where it is today? No! We need to adopt community service into our culture. Yes, some Nigerians don’t want progress. Help the Nigerians who want progress.
This is why I am starting another blog called INTERATIONAL EAGLES OF NIGERIA coming to wordpress in 2014.
Miss America: Brown Girl on the Bridge to Nowhere
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie TED Talk
“A man who would be intimidated by me is the kind of man I’d have no interest in”-Chimamanda Adichie
The best TED talk ever.
Our culture is so unfair to women.
Why are African Men intimidated by successful African women?
African Men want to marry virgins but they are not virgins.
Why can’t a woman shine with her husband without her husband feeling disrespected if she outshines him?