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For Better or Better..
It should be “For better or Worse..”
A lot of people say this phrase without understanding the word “worse”.
Cos if they meant it..
they wouldn’t run for a divorce when problems come..
C’mon ppl,
Why do you run when it gets worse in marriage?
You stood before God on your wedding day to say “worse”
worse means when it gets bad, really bad, really really bad..
Worse means Bad to the 100,000th power.
You didn’t say for better or for bad..
You said “Worse”..
Worse is an intense bad.
How many of you actually stand when it gets worse?
When it gets worse, a lot of people start checking out (Divorce)..
Worse is part of life…
Your life wasn’t smooth sailing when you were single.
Why do you think it is going to be smooth sailing now you are married?
A little prick and the love disappears..
It ought not to be so..
Life is full of ups and downs..
Everybody goes through it.
Your marriage will not be up all the time..
You will experience a down too.
If you didn’t want to divorce when your marriage was up..
Why should you divorce when your marriage is experiencing a down?
In the presence of abuse and infidelity
..Divorce is understandable;
however, irreconcilable differences.. really??
If you are going to marry for better and better..
Please, do your partner, and future children a favor and don’t marry at all.
There’s nothing as a perfect marriage..
Everybody with awesome marriages worked hard for it.
Marriage is not for wimps, it’s for people who are committed to fighting for their love.
Learn from the bad..
Let these bad times draw you closer and not tear you apart.
Nothing in Life with value comes easily..
The enemy hates marriages..
He will bring every wind of storm to tear you apart..
These storms come to measure the love you have for each other..
Singles..
For Better or Better (Fantasy, Fairy tales)
If you are not really marrying for Better or WORSE..PLEASE DON”T MARRY at ALL!!
We would have less Divorces today, if people indeed married for Better or Worse..
Advice
Don’t judge your life by Other people’s success or failure. The road of life is different for everyone. No one walk the road of life the same. A very good and kind man may die at 30 but a wicked and evil man may live till 80, between the two who is better?
The most intelligent student may graduate and get a good job but the dull student may drop out, struggle but someday build a very outstanding company. A virgin may struggle to give birth after marriage but a lady that have undergone multiple abortion may give birth nine months after marriage. Some may find love early during their teen but lose it by 35, others may find love at 40 and live happily ever after.
It may not happen the same way it happen to the other because everyone is different. But always try to give your best, so at the end, you will be glad you did!
Written by: Mfon Ekene
Fight for U!
Our biggest battle is not against racism, our enemies, Society, our Past experiences, background etc..etc.
Our biggest Battles takes place in our Minds.
If we lose in our minds, we will lose in Life.
If we win in our minds, we will win in Life.
Our Thoughts are powerful.
Our thoughts creates our Future.
What are you thinking about??
“As a man thinks in his heart so is he”-Ps. 23:7
Marriage Prep for Christian Singles (ladies Version)..
- Condition your mind to see every man as a brother.
Why? Infidelity is toxic to marriage. You need to prepare your mind early that every guy is your brother. This will help keep your relationship with males in check before and after you are married. Even if you are engaged, you have to remember that this guy is your brother in Christ first, I know this is hard to do if you’re attracted to the person but you have to train your mind until after the wedding. - Be complete in Christ.
Why? Marriage and your husband can’t complete you. In fact, no one can complete us but God. If you are not happy now, trust me from what I have heard from couples, marriage wouldn’t make you any happier. To believe that someone will complete you is an absolute myth. Only God can fulfill us. - Pray for God’s choice of a mate..
Why? God knows us more than anyone, he is the best matchmaker cos he knows the person that will fix you best. Don’t pick someone and ask God for his blessing. Ask God, this person is interested in me is this the person you want me to marry. This is why it is very important we have a relationship with God where we can hear his voice clearly.
Be complete in Christ
- Learn to Cook…
In American culture, it’s not a big deal if you don’t cook but in Nigerian culture, a woman who can’t cook is a disgrace to her family. - Start now to pray for your marriage
- Abstain from sex till marriage- if you can have sex outside of marriage, you will have sex outside of your marriage. Studies show premarital sex increases risk for divorce–Read here– (http://www.focusonthefamily.com/about_us/focus-findings/marriage/premarital-sex-and-divorce.aspx)
- Learn to manage your money.. Please don’t bring children into this world with no plan how you will take care of them. It is your responsibility to take care of your kids not the government.
- Set your mind and keep it set that when you marry that divorce is not an option. If you are engaged, tell your fiancé how does he feel about this concept? In cases of abuse where your life and your children’s life are threatened that is serious emergency situation and you need to take the necessary steps to get out of that situation.
- Be honest about everything with the person you are about to marry. I mean it’s better they know all about your skeletons before you marry them. Especially for women, if any of your body part is fake please your fiancé deserves the right to know before he marries you. People put people in weird situations when they are not honest before marriage. Morale of the story: it will hurt you more later if you aren’t honest.
- If you want kids, babysit other ppl’s kids to get a feel what it would be like to have your own kids. Do you even like kids?.. You need to know these things. If you don’t want kids pls don’t marry someone who wants kids cos you will definitely have conflict.
- Know your character traits and develop the character traits that will help you in marriage. For example: if you are quick tempered, you need to work on that because if you don’t that might be a problem in your marriage.
- Gain from wisdom from couples that have been married more than 30 years and still married
- Don’t compare your life to others. You will never be content in your life. This is a very important concept: so when you do get married, you wouldn’t compare your husband and kids with another person.
Don’t compare your life with someone else
- Use your words to build the people you love even when they hurt you.
- Marry someone you sincerely love. Marrying someone who worships the ground you walk on will make you feel trapped in marriage if you don’t love that person equally.
- Love yourself. You can’t love anyone until you love yourself.
- Learn to forgive easily and quickly.
- Enjoy yourself as a single so that after you get married you don’t feel like you are missing out on life. Your priority should change after you are married.
- Learn to say “I am sorry”
20. Most important, ask God to prepare you to be that Proverbs 31 woman for your future husband and family!
Christain Singles..
A Pastor in my church said “ppl spend more time preparing for wedding more than the marriage.” Considering the high rates of divorces today, I agree with his statement 100%. The alarming fact of the matter is that divorce is also high in the church. I think the enemy in directly attacks families by attacking marriages. Marriage should be forever.
Hollywood shocked us with 72 days of marriage. Our society doesn’t value marriage, an institution designed by God himself for a mature man and a mature woman. Rushing into a lifelong commitment is not wise and might easily end in a divorce. If people prepared more for marriage, do you think we would have less divorces? I don’t know, but I do think singles* need to take precaution in their dating relationships to approach marriage differently.
Divorce doesn’t only affect the parents, it affects the kids more. After divorce, kids have to adapt living with one parent instead of two. The child might not fully comprehend why daddy or mummy is no longer living with them. Divorces hurt children. The bible only allows divorce when infidelity is present. Divorce is a serious business to God because he doesn’t take marriage vows lightly.
Singles, marriage is not dating, you can’t just married him or her today and decide you want to divorce tomorrow. Unfortunately, people are approaching marriage like a dating game. Christian singles, if our marriage vows is important to God, we need to approach marriage in a serious sense. Society will go back on God’s word because a carnal mind can’t fully comprehend. As Christian singles, it is imperative we prepare ourselves for marriage. Marriage is a life-long commitment and shouldn’t be entered hastily.
That’s the problem with this society: quick to marry and quick to divorce.
What does Jesus mean to you?
Thank you sharonvogancollins for this question.
Jesus means Life to me.
I grew up in a Christian home.
I knew all the bible stories.
Yet, I didn’t have a relationship with Him.
I did what I wanted to do.
I noticed something that brought me closer to the cross..
What was it?
I got in more trouble than my friends.
I would get in trouble with my friends..
However, I got more punished than them.
It didn’t make sense until my sophomore yr of High School in the States..
I decided to stop living a double life to pursue a deep relationship with Christ.
I am not where I want in my relationship with God but thanks be to Him that I am not where I was.
TGBTG!
This is a good question.
To my followers “what does Jesus mean to you?”
How Great is Our God Day 8
50 years ago Martin Luther King Jr. had a dream..
Today President Obama is a 2nd Term President.
Never in my lifetime did I think something like this would happen.
MLK jr’s dream came true today.
Today makes History!!
This verse comes to mind..
“God uses the foolish things of the world to shame the wise”- I Cor. 1:27
How Great is Our GOD!!!!
How GREAT is our GOD Day 3..
I found this amazing story written one of my friends on fb. I can’t share the person’s name.
“A man who is about 24 years old is walking down the street homeless for over almost 4 years now. Asking people for food and money. This man was not a man of ignorance or negativity. He just lost his home due to a major fire from the inside of his house. This man lost his two twin daughters and his wife of 8 years in the fire. He survived but now has nothing.”
One day, this man went to the a gas station up the street to find more people to give him something to eat. He ran into this young lady. This young lady was about 22 years old. She was in college and had alot going for her. So the homeless man went up to her and asked her “What is the matter why is she so sad? She answered: “I lost my job, my grades are not good, my parents dont listen to me and I just broken up with my boyfriend of 3 years.” The man replied and said “Sorry to hear that. I just have one thing to say to you. From what I hear your going through a lot of things right now but trust me when I say its not gonna end this way. You still have a chance for something greater in life so your should hold your pretty face up high and continue on with life. Coming from experience, IT COULD HAVE BEEN WORSE!I am a homeless man out here begging for food and money.
Trust me, there is a whole lot you should be thankful for in the process. I am not the best person to share bible scripture with, but the last scripture I read keeps me going and I hope that it blesses you. It says: For I know the plans that I have for you declares the lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
The young lady was so blessed by the message he gave her. She gave him great thanks by taking him to get something to eat and actually bought him a gift card to shop for clothes.
Ending of this message, the homeless man went to church one day and gave his life to christ! He ended up living with the pastor who gave him a job at his funeral home. So on TODAY, this homeless man is now running his own business, has a two story house in the suburbs, and is currently engaged to be married to his new wife to be.
Whats so amazing about this short story is not only do I know this man, but it shows me that no matter if your a crackhead, prostitute, etc. God gets pleasure in using this so-called names to be a blessing and a true example of TRUST AND FAITH! People like this man are a mystery to God. It just proves that he can take anyone and turn their life around.
The best part of this story is HIS WIFE TO BE IS THE YOUNG LADY HE RAN INTO AT THE GAS STATION!!!! GOD IS AN AMAZING GOD…..
Written by: a friend on Facebook
What can I say?! How Great is our GOD!!!!
How Great is our God Day 1
The Law of Gravity..
Can you imagine earth without this law?
We would all be floating without it.
I know the idea of floating sounds kool.
If we were constantly floating could have we been able to do all the things we can do today?
Of course, if Gravity didn’t exist,
God would have created another law that would have made our lives easier.
If we were constantly floating would we have cars?
Floating cars??
Obviously, it’s hard for me to imagine life without gravity.
Take a minute, imagine ur life without gravity?
What kind of life would it be?
Do you think we could survive like this?
God is so Great that he made this earth with a law that makes our life easier.
How Great is our GOD!!