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You can’t Buy Love.. Can you?

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Love is priceless,
Love is not a feeling, or an emotion.
We have watered down this thing called “love.”
Nowadays, a guy can buy a girl’s in love with his good looks and a large bank account.

Ladies, we are not waiting for love anymore, we are settling for financial security and mere looks.
Guys don’t feel they have to do much anymore.
That sacrificial love is gone.
We are all looking for what we can gain not what we can give.
Lust takes, takes and takes..
Love gives.
Girls we can buy love from guys by being beautiful.
Our natural beauty is enough but to catch the best, we have to add some artificial “stuff” (you know).
The more fake we become the more attention we get.
We only hurt ourselves when we underestimate love.

If you choose anything such as money, looks above love. You lose.

Dear President Mandela,

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I rarely cry when iconic people die but for you sir, I felt a tear. I am humbled by how you fought for your people the same way Martin Luther King Jr. fought for his people. Your people are living better lives because you sacrificed your life for them. I salute you sir because a lot of people would have chicken out but you fought till the end. I join South Africans to celebrate your life and we will never forget your sacrifice. I watched Sarafina when I was younger, and I saw a tiny glimpse of how your people were maltreated in your own country. I saw how talented your people are and how this apartheid made them stronger. I am not South African but I think if I wasn’t born Nigerian, I would have been South African. I love your people, culture, talents, voices and anything else I am yet to discover about your country. Our world needs more selfless leaders like you!! We will always and forever remember you. You lived a wonderful life, Sir. I will never forget you. South Africans will never forget you. The world will never forget you. Your legacy lives on. Goodbye, Sir!!!

Sincerely,
9jagirl4real

*Tear*

If you could write a letter to Mandela. What would you say? Please, write your letter to Mandela, tag this post at the end of your letter and encourage your readers to do the same.

Stop Pressuring Singles to Marry..

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Leave us Single Women Alone..
Yes, I know the clock is ticking.
Since I was born this clock has been ticking and ticking..
Nobody should be pressured to make a lifelong commitment hastily.

People under pressure make dumb mistakes like marrying someone they didn’t want to marry.
Love is important in a marriage.
Unlike some of you in your marriages, I want to be happy in my marriage.
I just don’t want to tolerate my marriage because of the children.

As a Nigerian Woman at my age, it is absolutely a crime to be single.
As soon as a Nigerian woman graduates from college, she gets all sorts of pressure to get married.
I want to be married someday.
I want to have a husband and three beautiful children or four by God’s grace.
Marriage is not a joke.
Marriage is a long-term commitment.
STOPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP THE PRESSUREEEEEEEEEEE!!!

Marriage is for LIFE.
As soon as I say “I do.” That is it!!
I don’t believe in divorce.
For a woman who doesn’t believe in DIVORCE, I need my space away from every pressure to make my decision.
A woman knows what she wants.
If I am still single at my age, OMG!!! The world is not ending.
STOP THE PRESSURE!

A lot of women Marry for several reasons.
Not this Woman: I will only marry for LOVE and NOTHING ELSE.
No Single Woman can Force any man to love her and you CAN’T force her to love someone she doesn’t want because of a clock.
I rather wait patiently and be happy in my marriage than rush and be miserable.
Being Single is not A Crime..
LET US BE!!!
You are not God.
STOP THE PRESSURE!

Why are Nigerians Everywhere?

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The truth is each Nigerian has their own reason why they are where they are.
Here are my top reasons why Nigerians are Everywhere:

1. Nigerians value Education–
Did you know the United States doesn’t recognize college degrees from Nigerian schools? I can’t speak for other countries. They are some college degrees that are accepted but it rarely gets accepted. For a Nigerian who wants to further their education in another country; going to school in Nigeria might be a waste of time because that school might not recognize their degree. Most people who school in Nigeria might have to start college all over again to get a degree because their Nigerian degree is not accepted.
-Some Nigerians are in your Country for Education.

2. Government Instability in Nigeria–
Our Country is rich in oil and other natural resources, but we have selfish politicians who only think about themselves and their pockets. The money we earn from oil is only distributed among our selfish politicians, who only think about how to exploit their citizens than help them.
-Some Nigerians are in your Country to escape Nigeria’s corrupt politicians.

3. Broken School System in Nigeria–
Can you imagine spending 6-7 years in school for a degree that should only take you 5 years? Students in our Country due to strikes might have to stay in school longer. Some strikes can last for months without students knowing when the strike will be over. Most strikes arise for a lot of reasons; it could be due to the fact that our government have not paid teachers in months. Thus, teachers use a strike as a way to demand their salaries paid.
-Some Nigerians are in your Country because your Country has a more stable school System.

4. NEPA
NEPA is a company that is responsible for supplying lights (electricity) throughout Nigeria. A lot of Nigerians make fun of this company because they don’t give us any light and we have to pay them every month. NEPA is one of the things I hate most about my country. Most Nigerians use generators as a source of light because we never know when NEPA will give or take the light. Can you imagine going a whole day with no lights? NEPA can take lights for a whole week straight meaning you can stay a whole week straight with no light. It seems like someone in their NEPA station is playing with the light switch. They can give your lights for 1minutes, 2min, or 4min (their choice). To be honest, I lived in Nigeria for 12years and I can’t remember sleeping throughout the night with lights. We have some states like Abuja, Lagos.. etc who enjoy constant light but not in my state Akwa Ibom.
-Some Nigerians are in your Country because you have constant light.

5. Graduates have no jobs..
A lot of college graduates feel they went to school in vain because when they graduate they only add to the pool of unemployed graduates still searching for jobs to no avail. It is not easy going to school for 5years or more and graduating with no job to show for it. A lot frustrated youth take on a life of crime to support themselves or they look for a way to leave the country to a place that offers more opportunities.
-Some Nigerians are in your Country because they couldn’t find work in Nigeria.

6. Nigeria has a long way to go. Some Nigerians don’t see themselves progressing in their own country and that’s why they look for a way to leave.

This is why I get angry at Nigerians who are giving Nigerians a bad name by messing things up for Nigerians who genuinely want to better themselves for the sake of their future and the future of our country.

Ted Talk Review: The Skill of Self Confidence by Dr. Ivan Joseph

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Here’s my notes from this this Ted Talk.

“I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate” –Ernest Henley

Without the skill of self-confidence we are useless.

Self-confidence: the ability or belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, the difficulty or adversity.

Self-confidence can be trained by:
1. Repetition, repetition, repetition. Practice!
The problem with repetition is that we bail out after a few tries.
Don’t accept failure; repetition and persistence are key.

2. Self-talk- we all have this negative self-talk in our heads. Guess what?  We have enough people saying “we can’t do it, we are not good enough.” Thoughts influence actions. The more we focus on the negative, we will start believing it. We need our own self affirmations.  Get away from people who tear you down. We need our own self affirmations where we tell ourselves “I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.”
-Write a letter to yourself of the things you are proud of and read it to yourself daily to reaffirm yourself.

STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF TALK.

Build confidence in others by-Praising the positive behaviors we want to reinforce.

Self-confident people interpret negative feedback the way they want to.

Lastly, NO-ONE WILL BELIEVE IN YOU UNLESS YOU DO.

Click here to watch the whole speech.