To my Single Nigerian Ladies..

Love!I know everybody is rushing us to get married; please don’t succumb to the pressure of marrying someone you don’t love.
True love is priceless.
Wait patiently for it.
Love is vital in marriage.
Marriage is a life-long commitment.
Choose wisely!!

I am concerned for the future of my unborn black children in a Donald Sterling world..

As you all can see I am a Nigerian Woman hoping to marry a Nigerian man  and together we will make some Nigerian-American babies by the grace of God.

The truth of matter is racism is still alive in America, and it will be here for a very long time. It doesn’t matter how many bans are placed on people. This situation will always find its way to creep back up. I hate to sound negative but it is reality. Racism exists in America. As you all are aware of the situation of what happened between Donald Sterling, the Clippers basketball team owner and his mistress. The telephone exchange between this man and his mistress telling her not to take pictures with black people that it makes him look bad….etc.

As a future Nigerian parent(by the grace of God) to Nigerian-American black children, I am very concerned for the future of my black children. I take care of children right now and I know that children naturally don’t see race; they see people which means racism is a learned behavior (as you already know). As a future parent, I will educate my children not to see race but their classmate’s parents may not be doing the same. Thus, most likely my black children will be discriminated against for no reason.

I have said this and I will say it again…Black people were forced out their country to come here and they were brutally punished for years. What crime did blacks commit to be subject to a lifetime of discrimination and prejudice? What did my future unborn children do to any of you to be subject of a life of hate? Exactly, they did nothing. Please parents, stop teaching your kids to hate people for no reason. My future unborn children deserve a fair chance in Donald Sterling world.

Thank and God bless America!!

What happened to our Nigerian Accent?

Is this self-hate or what? A lot of our people are forcing themselves to have American or British accents. Is it by force?
Why are people in Nigeria with British or American accents?
The surprising thing is that most people with these accents have lived their whole lives in Nigeria.
Ramsey Nouah was born and raised in Nigeria, but he has an American accent.
Our Nigerian movies are not helping the matter either.
How can you have a Nigerian character with an American accent?
Come on, directors..
Tell your actors and actresses to portray the characters well.

A Nigerian character that is born and raised in Nigeria should have a Nigerian accent. 

I have lived in the US for 13years.
My accent has gradually changed because I came here at a young age.
I didn’t force it but it happened because of my society.
Honestly, I prefer my Nigerian accent.

Nigerians, why are we not proud of who we are?
Why do we try to be other people?
I worked in a restaurant for a while.
One day, I was taking this man’s order and he started laughing at my face because of my accent.
I didn’t care. That’s his ignorance not mine.

We don’t see Americans or British people trying to talk like us in their movies except they are imitating us.
We are Nigerians..
We have to embrace it with our accents and all.
We are not perfect but every country has its trouble.

Americans are proud to be Americans.
British people are proud of themselves.
We have to know our identity before we can start a change movement in our country.

TEDx Talk Review: How to find your passion and inner Awesomeness by Eugene Hennie

I have not been blogging a lot because I am at a stage in my life where I am questioning.. What’s next?
What is my next step?

This Tedx Talk encouraged me on so many levels, I had to share my notes.
My Notes:
Find your Passion and inner Awesomeness by:

1. Knowing yourself-likes, dislikes..etc.
2. Embracing yourself
3. Surrounding yourself with encouraging people-the company you keep will dictate where you are going in life
4. Knowing what you want
5. Working your butt off- Be willing to lose sleep.
6. Making impossible the new possible
7. Failing hard and failing often
8. Beating on your craft-keep working on your craft until you perfect it.
9. Learning to embrace confrontation
10. Doing what is right

*Your inner awesomeness is already in the inside of you*

-Eugene Hennie

Click here to watch this Tedx Talk 


“To the singles, delay emotional and physical involvement in any new relationships early because escalating physical contacts in the first phases of a relationship will affect your thinking and set you up for failure”-Uduak Udofa edited by 9jagirl4real

I Dare You to live Stress-free this Year

Did you know that your body releases a hormone called “cortisol” to help you deal with stress? Cortisol has negative effects on our body long term. My challenge for you is to live stress-free this year. Please add this goal to your New Year’s resolution. We all have one life to live and we can shorten our time on earth if we don’t reduce stress in our lives.

Here are some things I recommend you should do to de-stress:
1. Worry less-Worry doesn’t solve anything. In fact, it makes the problem worse.
2. Exercise-I know by exercising you are stressing your body but trust me, you will feel so much better if you exercise.
3. Sleep-If you don’t get enough sleep, it will affect your body at some point. Don’t play with sleep. SLEEP!
4. Laugh-Laughter is good medicine. Laugh and laugh again..
5. Do something you enjoy- if you enjoy playing soccer, hanging out with friends. Do it and make sure you include it in your schedule.
6. Count your blessings-You think you have it worse? There is somebody who has it worse than you.
7. Put things in perspective-see things from another angle for a change.
8. Learn to cast your cares unto God because he cares for you.

I hope you will add more to this list as you learn to live stress-free this year.

“With God nothing shall be impossible”-Luke 1:37


Ted Talk Review: The Skill of Self Confidence by Dr. Ivan Joseph

Here’s my notes from this this Ted Talk.

“I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate” –Ernest Henley

Without the skill of self-confidence we are useless.

Self-confidence: the ability or belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, the difficulty or adversity.

Self-confidence can be trained by:
1. Repetition, repetition, repetition. Practice!
The problem with repetition is that we bail out after a few tries.
Don’t accept failure; repetition and persistence are key.

2. Self-talk- we all have this negative self-talk in our heads. Guess what?  We have enough people saying “we can’t do it, we are not good enough.” Thoughts influence actions. The more we focus on the negative, we will start believing it. We need our own self affirmations.  Get away from people who tear you down. We need our own self affirmations where we tell ourselves “I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.”
-Write a letter to yourself of the things you are proud of and read it to yourself daily to reaffirm yourself.


Build confidence in others by-Praising the positive behaviors we want to reinforce.

Self-confident people interpret negative feedback the way they want to.


Click here to watch the whole speech. 

Quick words to Married Couples..

Couples please make sure your Marriage is as beautiful as your wedding.
I have said this before and I will say it again..
If you had a fairy tale wedding, you also need to work hard to have your happy ending.
You have to INVEST in your Marriage!!!
Don’t neglect your Marriage.
The wedding was the easy part.
Invest in your relationship!!!!

Singles need to see more married couples who are truly happy in their marriage.
The stats are against marriage right now..

Single Ladies: Fantasize about your marriage not your wedding.
That’s the mistake of some women made. They invested more in their wedding than their marriage.
There’s no point having a big wedding, if it’s going to end in a divorce.