1. Your name is what? Ohh.. I can’t remember that. Can I call you…….?
2. Can you say something in African?
3. Do you know Simba?
4. You are African? Kool!! What country is that?
5. Did you have a zoo in your backyard?
6. (Clicking noises)… What did I say?
7. Do you like it here?
8. Can you tell me a curse word in African?
9. Is your Dad a King?
10. Have you seen Coming to America?
Every lady has her preference. Some ladies will say swag, looks, money, brains and etc. Personally, I say his “heart for the Lord.” A man’s heart for the Lord is the most attractive thing in my opinion. I can’t describe to you how attractive it is for a guy to love the Lord.
As a Christian lady the first thing I look for in a man who is physically attractive is his relationship with the Lord. It’s one thing to see a guy who goes to church is another thing to see a guy who completely loves the Lord. You can’t really see if he loves the Lord until you spend time with him. This guy prays before he pursues you. He seeks to make God happy with all his decisions. He is searching for a Proverbs 31 woman. Your physical appearance is not enough; your heart for Christ is what he wants. He seeks God’s will above all. He stands for Christ. His love for God controls his every move. As a Christian woman, I want a man whose heart is submissive to God that means I can submit to him knowing he will always lead me back to Christ.
*Help this heart love nothing else but you oh Lord.
Written by Emmanuel Ned
Strolling in the cozy and convivial arm of the evening is a culture so endearing and indispensable to me.
Often dressed in a quarter jean and T-shirt with my gadget(phone) and a headset passionately fixed into my ears plodding my soul with audio messages or music preferably.
I could still remember one of those thrilling moments with my headset stucked to my ears enjoying some pieces of music,when my ears decided to play some gimmicks with me.
It seemed i heard a car honk behind the pedestrian lane which i was plodding along.
In an attempt to give way to the pseudo vehicle behind me.
I stopped and looked back only to discover it was all disillusional pioneered by my mind and ears.Upon turning to go forward i dashed my leg against a stone and got bruised.
Few day later I had the same experience but i was smart enough never to stop, i only turned my head but still moving forward.
Guess what! I had no bruise.
Such is life, Only the smart takes the future.
The smart ones learn from the past but look to the future
Often times in life,we don’t need to stop the progress of today by going back to our past.
”learn from the past,look to the future,but live in the present”
The past is gone and the future is here.The memories of the past is often inundated with regrets,pains, failures,fustrations,trepidation and consternation.
The future is ever deluged with hope(s),opportunities,victories and possibilities.
Let go of the past if you dont want to dash the possibilities of the future.
”not holding on to the past rejuvenates enthusiasm to annex the future”
Often times life would always want to beguile us to dwelling in our pasts,which is filled with regrets and failures with the sole aim of maring the future.
The good news is certain,as the days unfold so the past is put into extinction unravelling the future.
You cannot re-write history but can only learn from it.
”We are made wise not by the re-collection of our past but by the responsibility of our future”- George Berrnard Shaw
I am at the stage in my life where I am accepting applications for 9jaboy4real, if you are interested email me at [email protected] (only serious applications will be accepted, LOL!!). In a few years, I will be married and have children (by God’s grace). Even though, I am not yet married I am always thinking about what’s best for my children. What’s best for my children guides a lot of my decisions because if I like it or not; the decisions I make now will affect my children positively or negatively. I don’t want my children to suffer for the poor decisions I make in life.
I went to college with a guy who said that his dad lived down the street from his house but he refused to walk a few blocks to come see him. I saw the pain in that boy’s eyes from that day, I decided I’d never make a careless decision that will jeopardize my children’s happiness. I grew up with both my parents so I don’t fully understand what it means to only have one parent and rejection by another parent. I have heard of enough stories of children who felt abandoned by their father and I can’t imagine the emotional pain they go through every day. In life you can’t control what happens to you most of the time but what I can control I will.
Statistics are against children from broken homes. I have seen how broken families mess up children and I don’t want to put my children through that. Divorce affects the children more than it affects the parents. For the sake of my children, divorce can’t be an option.
Don’t get me wrong in the presence of verbal or physical abuse; divorce has to be an option because I need to stay alive to take care of my children. African women will do anything for their children and I am no different.
I don’t want to bring my children into an emotional mess. Each child deals with divorce in their own way. It is not God’s will for my children to be born into a broken home. My children deserve the right to have parents walking side by side to give them a better future.
To 9jaboy4real (whoever you are): Divorce is NOT an option!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Music therapy is the use of music interventions to accomplish individual goals with a credential professional(American Music Therapy Association). Professionals use music interventions because it really works. When life gets rough, I use music therapy. No, I don’t go to a professional. I gather my own motivational songs and I do my own music therapy. We can all benefit from music therapy. We have different reasons why we listen to music. Sometimes in life we need that moment where we shut everybody out and listen to good relaxing music.
How to pick the songs for your Music therapy?
What are you struggling with? It could be pain. You might must to listen to songs about healing. Songs like “I am the Lord that healeth thee” by Don Moen
Are you struggling with disappointment? Songs like “God will make a way” by Don Moen could come in handy.
If you are not a Christian; pick songs that encourage you in order to get through. It is not the time to listen to depressing music or songs that make you feel worse. You definitely need a group of positive songs where you can always listen to feel uplifted.
Here is my go to songs for music therapy: It has the mixture of relaxing and uplifting songs.
Make a playlist for your motivational songs and play them over and over again. When you are going through things, it is important you listen to encouraging and relaxing songs. We all use music in different ways; it’s time we use music for our benefit.
Selah!
Some moments in life can really bite.
Guess what? It’s not the end of world.
The negative things in my life motivate me to work harder towards my goals.
So when negative things happen to you don’t allow it beat you down. Cry, if you have to cry.
After crying, clean your tears and work harder.
Allow it to motivate you to do better.
Self-pity will get you no way but God, hard work and determination will get you somewhere.
After crying, please get up and try!!
Here’s my notes from this this Ted Talk.
“I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate” –Ernest Henley
Without the skill of self-confidence we are useless.
Self-confidence: the ability or belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, the difficulty or adversity.
Self-confidence can be trained by:
1. Repetition, repetition, repetition. Practice!
The problem with repetition is that we bail out after a few tries.
Don’t accept failure; repetition and persistence are key.
2. Self-talk- we all have this negative self-talk in our heads. Guess what? We have enough people saying “we can’t do it, we are not good enough.” Thoughts influence actions. The more we focus on the negative, we will start believing it. We need our own self affirmations. Get away from people who tear you down. We need our own self affirmations where we tell ourselves “I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.”
-Write a letter to yourself of the things you are proud of and read it to yourself daily to reaffirm yourself.
STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF TALK.
Build confidence in others by-Praising the positive behaviors we want to reinforce.
Self-confident people interpret negative feedback the way they want to.
Lastly, NO-ONE WILL BELIEVE IN YOU UNLESS YOU DO.
John F. Kennedy said “Ask not what your country can do for you – ask what you can do for your country.” International Eagles of Nigeria-an inspirational blog to motivate Nigerians Aboard to start giving back. Coming soon to wordpress in 2014!!!
