Category Archives: Family

I am concerned for the future of my unborn black children in a Donald Sterling world..

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As you all can see I am a Nigerian Woman hoping to marry a Nigerian man  and together we will make some Nigerian-American babies by the grace of God.

The truth of matter is racism is still alive in America, and it will be here for a very long time. It doesn’t matter how many bans are placed on people. This situation will always find its way to creep back up. I hate to sound negative but it is reality. Racism exists in America. As you all are aware of the situation of what happened between Donald Sterling, the Clippers basketball team owner and his mistress. The telephone exchange between this man and his mistress telling her not to take pictures with black people that it makes him look bad….etc.

As a future Nigerian parent(by the grace of God) to Nigerian-American black children, I am very concerned for the future of my black children. I take care of children right now and I know that children naturally don’t see race; they see people which means racism is a learned behavior (as you already know). As a future parent, I will educate my children not to see race but their classmate’s parents may not be doing the same. Thus, most likely my black children will be discriminated against for no reason.

I have said this and I will say it again…Black people were forced out their country to come here and they were brutally punished for years. What crime did blacks commit to be subject to a lifetime of discrimination and prejudice? What did my future unborn children do to any of you to be subject of a life of hate? Exactly, they did nothing. Please parents, stop teaching your kids to hate people for no reason. My future unborn children deserve a fair chance in Donald Sterling world.

Thank and God bless America!!

Love is priceless..

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“A man who only likes you for your looks will cheat on you. A woman who only likes you for your money will definitely cheat on you.”-9jagirl4real

What happened to our Nigerian Accent?

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Is this self-hate or what? A lot of our people are forcing themselves to have American or British accents. Is it by force?
Why are people in Nigeria with British or American accents?
The surprising thing is that most people with these accents have lived their whole lives in Nigeria.
Ramsey Nouah was born and raised in Nigeria, but he has an American accent.
Our Nigerian movies are not helping the matter either.
How can you have a Nigerian character with an American accent?
Come on, directors..
Tell your actors and actresses to portray the characters well.

A Nigerian character that is born and raised in Nigeria should have a Nigerian accent. 

I have lived in the US for 13years.
My accent has gradually changed because I came here at a young age.
I didn’t force it but it happened because of my society.
Honestly, I prefer my Nigerian accent.

Nigerians, why are we not proud of who we are?
Why do we try to be other people?
I worked in a restaurant for a while.
One day, I was taking this man’s order and he started laughing at my face because of my accent.
I didn’t care. That’s his ignorance not mine.

We don’t see Americans or British people trying to talk like us in their movies except they are imitating us.
We are Nigerians..
We have to embrace it with our accents and all.
We are not perfect but every country has its trouble.

Americans are proud to be Americans.
British people are proud of themselves.
We have to know our identity before we can start a change movement in our country.

The best way to love your kids..

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“The best way to love your kids is to love your spouse. Your relationship with your spouse will affect your children whether you accept this reality or not. Your children are the product of your love. Again, don’t neglect your relationship with your spouse because it will affect your children’s present and future.”-9jagirl4real

 

Do you notice patterns in your love life?

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Do you keep attracting the same types of people?
It is weird how that happens.
One of my close guy friends noticed a relationship pattern in his love life.
For example, the people he is attracted to and the people that are attracted to him have the same career path (medical doctors or students). Even the people that he is attracted to and he knows nothing about them always end up being pre-med or medical students for some reason.
For me, I have notice a relationship pattern as well.
Most of the guys, I have talked or dated have being very significant males born child in their families. It is so weird. Even the once I am attracted to and I know nothing about them have been very significant male born of their families.
The crazy thing is that even the guys that are innocently attracted to you fit the same relationship pattern.
Do you guy notice patterns in your love life?

 

Myths Nigerians need to stop believing about America:

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1. Money grows on trees– I know a lot of Nigerians don’t think like this but for those who believe this myth, please stop believing it. America has a lot of opportunities, but Nigerians have to come here and work hard for their money. Stop calling a student in the America to send money to you. If they are not working; they don’t have the money. Please try to believe that even if they are working that as a student, they wouldn’t have that much time to commit to work and making money.

2. People who travel aboard are better than you– There are insecure people who come back from America to Nigeria to act high and mighty. Truth is they are nothing and I don’t care how much money they have. Treat them the same. They will try to pretend that they have forgotten their native language, it’s not true. Now, if they have been in America for 15years or more, it is possible to forget the language if they didn’t speak with other natives but they should still be able to remember.

3. There is no poor person or places here– Everywhere you go you will see poor people and places. America is not exempted.

4. Nigerian girls and Nigerian guys are the same from back at home: I mean, they have the same mentality but with a little twist. Nigerian guys here are away from their mothers and family, so they have to learn to cook. You will be surprised how Nigerian guys can cook. The whole thing about woman cooking is slowing going out the window (women still need to know to cook). Nigerian girls here are very independent and not as dependent as they would have been on men in Nigeria.

5. We don’t eat our native food: There are some Nigerians who come back and act like they can’t eat Nigerian food anymore. Don’t mind them. We still eat Nigerian food here. It is a little expensive because we are limited as to where we can get the food stuff but we still eat it. Some places in the states might be different.

More to Come..

Letter to one of my Friends,

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Dear friend,

I cannot thank you enough for your sacrifice for me this week.
This week was tough physically and emotionally.
Of course, I had to talk to my sister.
Most importantly, I had to talk to God.
I called you up and asked you if you will sacrifice a day without food to pray for me.
You did.
I have never had a anyone do this with me.
For the first time in my life, I have a true friend.
When my sister was around, she helped me out a lot.
When love took her away, I felt all alone and empty.
Our friendship is not perfect; however, I am thankful for it.

For the first time in my life, I have a true friend.
It’s a blessing to call you my friend.
I pray God makes me a better friend to you.

Love is..

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True loves says when everybody quits on you, I will ALWAYS be HERE fighting for you and us. A lot of people marry people emotionally only to find out they married for the wrong reasons. LOVE is too POWERFUL to QUIT!!