As a blogger it is very important for me to know my audience and what they like.
I have been blogging for two years and to be honest; I don’t care about the stats but I do care about my audience.
9jagirl4real was birthed at a very vulnerable time in my life. It allowed me to escape a painful reality at the time.
I have 439 blog posts on 9jagirl4real.
Out of 439 blog posts on 9jagirl4real, you would be surprised to know that one particular blog gets the most attention.
Which one it it?
The result will be announced: TOMORROW.
Hint: It is going to make a group of people very happy!!
I know everybody is rushing us to get married; please don’t succumb to the pressure of marrying someone you don’t love.
True love is priceless.
Wait patiently for it.
Love is vital in marriage.
Marriage is a life-long commitment.
Choose wisely!!
As you all can see I am a Nigerian Woman hoping to marry a Nigerian man and together we will make some Nigerian-American babies by the grace of God.
The truth of matter is racism is still alive in America, and it will be here for a very long time. It doesn’t matter how many bans are placed on people. This situation will always find its way to creep back up. I hate to sound negative but it is reality. Racism exists in America. As you all are aware of the situation of what happened between Donald Sterling, the Clippers basketball team owner and his mistress. The telephone exchange between this man and his mistress telling her not to take pictures with black people that it makes him look bad….etc.
As a future Nigerian parent(by the grace of God) to Nigerian-American black children, I am very concerned for the future of my black children. I take care of children right now and I know that children naturally don’t see race; they see people which means racism is a learned behavior (as you already know). As a future parent, I will educate my children not to see race but their classmate’s parents may not be doing the same. Thus, most likely my black children will be discriminated against for no reason.
I have said this and I will say it again…Black people were forced out their country to come here and they were brutally punished for years. What crime did blacks commit to be subject to a lifetime of discrimination and prejudice? What did my future unborn children do to any of you to be subject of a life of hate? Exactly, they did nothing. Please parents, stop teaching your kids to hate people for no reason. My future unborn children deserve a fair chance in Donald Sterling world.
Is this self-hate or what? A lot of our people are forcing themselves to have American or British accents. Is it by force?
Why are people in Nigeria with British or American accents?
The surprising thing is that most people with these accents have lived their whole lives in Nigeria.
Ramsey Nouah was born and raised in Nigeria, but he has an American accent.
Our Nigerian movies are not helping the matter either.
How can you have a Nigerian character with an American accent?
Come on, directors..
Tell your actors and actresses to portray the characters well.
A Nigerian character that is born and raised in Nigeria should have a Nigerian accent.
I have lived in the US for 13years.
My accent has gradually changed because I came here at a young age.
I didn’t force it but it happened because of my society.
Honestly, I prefer my Nigerian accent.
Nigerians, why are we not proud of who we are?
Why do we try to be other people?
I worked in a restaurant for a while.
One day, I was taking this man’s order and he started laughing at my face because of my accent.
I didn’t care. That’s his ignorance not mine.
We don’t see Americans or British people trying to talk like us in their movies except they are imitating us.
We are Nigerians..
We have to embrace it with our accents and all.
We are not perfect but every country has its trouble.
Americans are proud to be Americans.
British people are proud of themselves.
We have to know our identity before we can start a change movement in our country.
Recently, I have been stressed out about a lot of things. Instead of running to the source of all peace, I become this workaholic person who tries to make everything better. The new person I became has not really helped my relationship with God. The crazy thing is when my relationship with God goes downhill; it makes me more stressed out. To be honest, I think I am stressed out because I have been kicking my relationship with God to the curb. Let me say that our relationship with God is the most important relationship in life that if it is not right there; it wouldn’t be right elsewhere. I have been through a lot of storms in my life and I know that the only thing that kept me sane was my relationship with God.
When we spend time with God in his word, prayer with or without fasting, it helps us to grow our spiritually. Growing spiritually is very important because it energizes our spirit to overcome the flesh. Remember, our flesh is always fighting against the spirit. The flesh wants to win because it’s in our human nature for our flesh to win; however, the more we spend time with God we build up our spiritual man to defeat our flesh.
The opposite happened to me, I was busy worrying about the cares of life that I neglected energizing my spiritual man. In this period my flesh had an upper hand against my spirit. It is important that we spend time with him to defeat our flesh. We can’t defeat our flesh alone; we need God to defeat our flesh.
We definitely need to walk in the spirit so we do not fulfill the lust of the flesh (Galatians 5:16).
Help us Lord to continue to chase after you. Amen!!
“The best way to love your kids is to love your spouse. Your relationship with your spouse will affect your children whether you accept this reality or not. Your children are the product of your love. Again, don’t neglect your relationship with your spouse because it will affect your children’s present and future.”-9jagirl4real
Do you keep attracting the same types of people?
It is weird how that happens.
One of my close guy friends noticed a relationship pattern in his love life.
For example, the people he is attracted to and the people that are attracted to him have the same career path (medical doctors or students). Even the people that he is attracted to and he knows nothing about them always end up being pre-med or medical students for some reason.
For me, I have notice a relationship pattern as well.
Most of the guys, I have talked or dated have being very significant males born child in their families. It is so weird. Even the once I am attracted to and I know nothing about them have been very significant male born of their families.
The crazy thing is that even the guys that are innocently attracted to you fit the same relationship pattern.
Do you guy notice patterns in your love life?
As a blogger it is very important for me to know my audience and what they like.
