I cannot thank you enough for your sacrifice for me this week.
This week was tough physically and emotionally.
Of course, I had to talk to my sister.
Most importantly, I had to talk to God.
I called you up and asked you if you will sacrifice a day without food to pray for me.
You did.
I have never had a anyone do this with me.
For the first time in my life, I have a true friend.
When my sister was around, she helped me out a lot.
When love took her away, I felt all alone and empty.
Our friendship is not perfect; however, I am thankful for it.
For the first time in my life, I have a true friend.
It’s a blessing to call you my friend.
I pray God makes me a better friend to you.
True loves says when everybody quits on you, I will ALWAYS be HERE fighting for you and us. A lot of people marry people emotionally only to find out they married for the wrong reasons. LOVE is too POWERFUL to QUIT!!
Some moments in life can really bite.
Guess what? It’s not the end of world.
The negative things in my life motivate me to work harder towards my goals.
So when negative things happen to you don’t allow it beat you down. Cry, if you have to cry.
After crying, clean your tears and work harder.
Allow it to motivate you to do better.
Self-pity will get you no way but God, hard work and determination will get you somewhere.
I have not been blogging a lot because I am at a stage in my life where I am questioning.. What’s next?
What is my next step?
This Tedx Talk encouraged me on so many levels, I had to share my notes.
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My Notes:
Find your Passion and inner Awesomeness by:
1. Knowing yourself-likes, dislikes..etc.
2. Embracing yourself
3. Surrounding yourself with encouraging people-the company you keep will dictate where you are going in life
4. Knowing what you want
5. Working your butt off- Be willing to lose sleep.
6. Making impossible the new possible
7. Failing hard and failing often
8. Beating on your craft-keep working on your craft until you perfect it.
9. Learning to embrace confrontation
10. Doing what is right
*Your inner awesomeness is already in the inside of you*
“To the singles, delay emotional and physical involvement in any new relationships early because escalating physical contacts in the first phases of a relationship will affect your thinking and set you up for failure”-Uduak Udofa edited by 9jagirl4real
Once upon a time, this fine gal went to this big gym to work out with one of her acquaintances. While this fine gal was trying to do squats this guy was eyeing her from across the gym.
All of a sudden, he migrated over to where this fine gal was. The fine gal already knew what she was doing so she didn’t need his input. He felt he needed to give the fine gal his input which he did, but the fine gal played it off.
For a while the fine gal has not been seeing the guy at the gym (no, she wasn’t going to gym to find him). After a few weeks went by she went back to do her squats on this faithful day and all of a sudden she turned her head to the east-side of the gym and there he was. The fine gal didn’t care she wanted to do her squats and leave. As she was in the north-side of the gym minding her business, the guy migrated again from the east-side of the gym to the north-side of the gym. To make matters worse, he started doing walking lunges with these huge weights that required him to walk across the fine gal.
The fine gal is a Christian gal so she tried to ignore what was going on in front of her. The guy was obviously trying to get her attention which he did. The fine gal pitied the guy’s effort sha, so she decided to say a few things to him. The fine gal asked him “do you remember me?” He replied “Of course” and he went on to ask her if she needed help with her squats. She declined the offer and went on with her squats. While she was talking to him, she noticed something. Yes, something very interesting. What do you think it was?
A black ring on his left finger, NO!!! Why? The fine gal(9jagirl4real) thought. There’s something you should all know about this fine gal. She respects God and marriage so much that she will never do anything to disrespect that institution.
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Unfortunately, a lot of singles don’t respect the power of a wedding ring.
A wedding ring means he or she is out of the single’s market.
It means don’t even look that direction.
As soon as you see that wedding ring, a mental “X” sign needs to come on in your head to alert you to change course quickly.
A lot of singles try to justify talking to married people..
There’s no way you can justify it in a way that will make any sense.
If the guy or lady is married leave he or she alone.
“What God has joined together let no man put asunder”-Mark 10:9
If you try to put asunder in somebody’s marriage, you have to answer to God.
God takes Marriage Seriously..
I have no respect for singles that date married people.
I have no respect for married people who date people who is not their spouse.
I have no respect for married people who fool singles by lying that they are single.
If you are single and dating someone married…
How would you feel if your husband or wife cheated on you?
Nigerian guys are to soccer as Nigerian Girls are to______________?
I asked this question on my facebook status and I got all sort of answers. The answers people gave were
Money, Brazilian hair, Fashion, and Instagram. To answer this question, I would say “Money.”
I know I am a Nigerian girl and putting Nigerian girls under the bus will not be good for us, but I have to be honest with you guys.
Yes, I said it.. MONEY!!
Please, excuse my honesty..
Some Nigerian girls are too materialistic.
I didn’t say all Nigerian girls, I said “SOME.”
Some of these girls are so Materialistic to the point it could make someone sick.
Nigerian girls are materialistic due to the way things are in Nigeria (I want to believe)…
I think if things were a little better economically, it wouldn’t be this bad.
Please know that I am not condemning any Nigerian girl.
Advice to Guys dating or who want a Nigerian Girl..
First of all: if you marry a girl who clearly only loves you for your money, it is your fault not hers. If you feel you have to buy a woman’s love with your money, something is seriously wrong with you. Love is priceless. If you can buy love, it is not love.
If you want to marry a Nigerian girl who truly loves you for you then you have to take money out of the equation. Initially, you may want to study her and the friends she hangs out with to know the kind of person she is. Take her to a cheaper restaurant and see her reaction. If she ask you for money for something, say “no” and see her reaction. Let her discover that you have money after you are sure she is into you for you. You need to be discreet about it too.
If a lady marries you for money, she will leave you when the money is gone. BEWARE!!!
The video below was made for jokes but characterizes Nigerian women very well.
Again not all Nigerian girls are Materialistic but be careful that you don’t make yourself a victim.
Nigerian guys are to soccer as Nigerian Girls are to Money.
If you’re a non-Nigerian woman dating a Nigerian man, here are some things you need to know about your Nigerian Man.
1. Your Nigerian Man values Education-Most Nigerian men are in foreign countries for education, sports or business. Since you are foreign, you most likely met him in your home country or a country foreign country to him.
2. Your Nigerian Man loves Soccer (fyi: we call it football)- I am yet to find a Nigerian man who doesn’t love soccer. Find out his favorite professional soccer team and support the team. The popular soccer teams are Arsenal, Chelsea, Barcelona and the list goes on.
3. Your Nigerian Man loves his family: if you get to meet his family, he is very serious about you. Nigerian men don’t joke with their families. To meet his family, you definitely want to leave a good impression. If his family approves of you, he will most likely marry you.
4. Your Nigerian Man’s language will tell you about his culture. If he says he is Igbo, Yoruba, Efik etc..etc. You want to read up on his culture. If he was raised in Nigeria, there are some cultural practices that he might still want to uphold. This cultural thing is more important when you meet his family, you don’t want to do anything to insult his parents or family members. Reading or asking him about his culture might be helpful to you down the road.
5. Your Nigerian Man loves his Nigerian food- you will find some Nigerian men here and there who do not like their Nigerian foods but I am yet to find one. If you want him to put a ring on it quicker, learn to cook his ethnic food and see what he will do. Most Nigerian men in foreign countries are learning or already know how to cook their ethnic food but you will impress him more if you learn to cook it or show some an interest.
More to Come… If you have any questions, please comment below or email me at [email protected]
I think there’s a lag in communication between black men and black women.
Personally, I have nothing against black men dating people outside of their race; however, black women are losing their men to women of other races.
Hopefully, I can get some of you black men talking to help some black women understand why are you more prone to going outside of your race?
I have heard many answers from a few black men here and there but I want to hear from more black men.
Please, black men answer the questions below..
Here are some of the questions:
Are you attracted to black women?
If yes, are you dating someone outside of your race?
If yes, why are you dating someone outside of your race
Are you now dating people outside of your race from negative past experiences with black women?
Do you think women of other races are more tamed than black women?
If you could say something to some black women. What would you say?
Please give your answers by commenting below or you can send your answers to me [email protected].
I’d really love to hear what you guys think..
Your answers will help a lot of black women. Please, answer!!!
1. Your Nigerian Man values Education-Most Nigerian men are in foreign countries for education, sports or business. Since you are foreign, you most likely met him in your home country or a country foreign country to him.